Empowerment & Transformation
Make yourself a priority
Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence
No one shows up on the planet the way you do. It's statistically provable that you are not like anyone else. Your talents and Strengths are unique to you. They make you a force to be reckoned with and one that deserves to be unleashed.
Have you ever wondered what makes you stand out? What makes you powerful? Have you ever wanted to know your greatest strengths?
Confidence coaches are equipped with the tools and techniques to help you develop your confidence and self-belief. Coaching is designed to help you raise your self-esteem and create a positive outlook on life, starting from within. The aim is to help you challenge any limiting beliefs that you have about yourself, boost your self-esteem and build a strong self-image.
When you start coaching sessions, the first thing to do is understand your current level of self-esteem, then you have a base to build upon. You’ll gradually increase your self-worth and confidence over time until these traits become deeply ingrained facets of your personality.
Are you caught in a comparison trap and believe that you are less talented than other people?
Do you struggle with low self-esteem that holds you back from achieving your goals?
Do you find yourself suffering from imposter syndrome?
Do you seek the approval of other people?
Do you always agree with others, even if your point of view is different?
Do you have trouble saying NO to others and put their needs before your own?
Do you not move forward on goals due to self-criticism?
Do you find yourself in unhealthy relationships?
Do you set high expectations for yourself, and the pressure stops you from achieving goals?
If these feelings sound familiar to you, take comfort knowing that they can be remedied with empowerment and transformation coaching!
Self-esteem is defined as “the matrix through which we think, feel, and act, and reflects and determines our relation to ourselves, to others, and to the world.” The thoughts we have about ourselves, or how we define ourselves, contribute to our self-image. The feelings we have about these thoughts, whether these feelings are good or bad, are the building blocks of our self-esteem. Just as we have definitions for most things in the world, we also have definitions of ourselves. We come to define ourselves the way others define us. Thus, if others treat us with love and kindness, as if we are special and unique people, then we will eventually define ourselves in this way as well. On the other hand, if other people treat us as if we are a bother to have around and not worth much, then we will also come to see ourselves in this way.
At the start of your life journey, you are born free of prejudices, labels, and limitations. But as the journey unfolds, you find yourself amidst various events and situations, both negative and positive. Our self-image and gradually our self-esteem, can be molded by our parents, family, friends, physical or intellectual abilities, education, and jobs. Negative events and situations may severely lower the way you perceive your abilities. Sometimes, painful relationships can leave deep scars on your heart and mind. Also, what others say about you can make you fall victim to faulty labels and self-limiting patterns.
But these patterns and labels were never your burdens to carry!
However, you’ve been forced to believe that you are something less than what you actually are. Low self-esteem can affect life goals, career, relationships, and personal well-being, leaving you feeling like you are not enough. Having low self-esteem can be damaging to your mood and mental health. Feeling that you are worth less than others may lead you to strive for unrealistic perfection. Common associations with low self-esteem are depression and guilt, and you may constantly try to prove your worth to others.
A self-esteem coach is a person who possess the knowledge and tools to help people improve their perception of their abilities and worth. A great coach can help point out the ways in which we engage in destructive patterns of behavior and help us explore why we punish ourselves and why we see ourselves as being less than other people. Through coaching sessions, I will help you break free from limiting beliefs and guide you on the journey to a new, confident, and happier you. Together, we can change negative self-esteem tendencies by developing self-nurturing, self-encouraging, and self-enhancing behavior. When we begin to treat ourselves in a more positive way, others pick up on our cues and respond to us in the special way we all deserve.
Psychology Today defines self-confidence as “trusting in one’s ability or aptitude to engage successfully or at least adequately with the world.” Someone who is self-confident rises to new challenges, seizes opportunities, deals with difficult situations and takes responsibility if and when things go wrong.
Your behavior, your body language, how you react to different situations and how you speak can depict your confidence levels and the amount of belief you have in yourself. It is the way you feel about your skills, abilities, and behavior. Confidence can also be described as the way we project ourselves to others. We don’t have to truly feel confident in our abilities to appear confident to others. Many people can portray an image of complete confidence whilst shaking with fear on the inside. This idea of 'fake it until you make it' can be a helpful tool (we need to take action to feel confident, even if we're scared while doing it), but if you feel you're constantly faking it and aren't feeling any more confident, you may need to do some deeper work.
If you are lacking self-belief and confidence, you may feel:
Uneasy and shy
Uncertain of what you want and who you are
A sense of worthlessness
Negative about your abilities and self in general
You are unable to enjoy and relax in situations that you’d like to
As if you haven’t got a sense of direction in life
When we are confident, we feel more able to take risks and do the things that scare us -activities that our brain might perceive as a risk, like speaking up and doing something new.
If you are full of self-confidence, you may feel:
Greater enjoyment of life in general
Comfortable when facing new challenges
Excited about new opportunities
Confident about your opinions and ideas
A great sense of achievement
Respected by other people
At ease in social situations
Able to be yourself
Sure of yourself and what you want
If believing in your abilities, qualities, and judgment isn’t something that comes naturally to you, you're not alone, and that's okay! Every person can develop self-esteem, a positive mindset, and life skills to achieve happiness and true confidence! Some can do this through self-help while others find support from a confidence coach, like myself, helpful. By bringing confidence coaching into your life, you will see your world open up. Wherever you sit on the spectrum, know that both self-worth and confidence can be developed. Together, we can help you believe in yourself, so you can push through fear and fulfil your true potential.